Modern dating 101: When you start feeling emotionally attached, how to get the guy to fall for you, too? The typical scenario, is you meet a nice guy, you start hanging out, you like him so much that you start imagining a future with him..etc. However, how are things on his end? Does he also want to spend all his time with you? Does he express his feelings for you? Well, in most cases, you end up being the one who got emotionally attached too soon. While he, on the other hand, is still taking time to figure it all out. Sounds familiar? no worries, you are not the only one.
Furthermore, falling in love requires both parties to be walking on the same path. And although when the right person comes you won’t need to play games, most men are wired in a certain way that makes them want it a bit more if it’s a challenge. So, according to experts, here is how to get a guy to fall for you.
Patience Is Key
Precipitation can damage any relationship, especially in its early phases. In fact, one of the best way to get a guy to fall for you, is by giving him time. If you feel like you can no longer hold your feelings for them any longer, seek a good friend’s advice. Actually, getting an outside-opinion may just makes you realize how fast you are going. We tend to become a little blind when developing feelings for someone, and it takes looking at it from the outside to notice the signs you’ve been missing. Many people are in a toxic relationship and they don’t even know. However, stepping back, giving it time and reflecting on your feelings may help you regain control.
Furthermore, we often mistake lust or need of attention with love. Being patient is the only way to actually let the other person get to know you and develop feelings for you. Don’t rush it, just be patient.
Make Him Feel Needed, But Don’t Be Needy
The truth is, men are naturally raised to be the alpha male in the relationship. So, if he doesn’t feel needed by you, then chances are he is going to walk away. Of course, women nowadays don’t need any man, but it won’t hurt to make him feel that you can rely on him for a few things. However, be careful not to fall in the trap of being ”needy”, because that drives a man away like a rocket. Let him miss you, and know that you value yourself. In addition, spending time apart is perfectly healthy, and will do more benefit than harm to your relationship.
Don’t Be Available All The Time
Not being needy leads me to my next point. Don’t ever make yourself available 24/7 for someone, especially when you are just getting to know each other. Wether you like it or not, a major rule in order to get a guy to fall for you, is making him struggle. Yes, men love to work hard to get a girl, and they don’t like easy. As oppose to women, when we like someone, we rather to cut to the chase as soon as possible. However, don’t be give in easily, and make him try hard to get you. That way, you get is attention for longer, and his interest doesn’t go away quickly.
Don’t Go All Wifey On Him Since The Beginning
You know what’s the worst thing you can do for a guy? It’s to be completely yourself since the beginning. As we explained previously, men like a challenge. So, if since date 3 you are already making him a 3 course meal, washing dishes and going all wifey on him, be sure you’re going to loose him pretty soon. In fact, go step-by-step, and while you show him that you are serious, caring and ”wife material”, don’t do it all at once.
I’ve personally known many girls who changed completely after getting into a relationship. And you know what? 80% of them ended up loosing their partner sooner than they thought. It’s quite simple. If you give up on your friends, change your plans all the time, and adapt your schedule to his, that makes you fit into all the above categories. So, it makes sense that he is just going to run away. Be independent, walk through life according to your own pace, and watch how that’s going to workout just fine.
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