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Denial of Pregnancy: When You Don’t Know You’re Expecting

Denial of pregnancy is no joke. Imagine that you’re sitting at the hospital, feeling abdominal pain without knowing why. Suddenly, the doctors tell you that you are about to give birth. You stare at them in confusion, and ask yourself how could that be possible? You’ve never had any symptoms, kept getting your period, and for 9 months, there was no obvious physical change. So, how can you be about to give birth to a child you never knew existed?

Thankfully, it’s a rare condition, and it only happens to 1 in 2.500 women. However, 1 in 500 can make it up to the 5th month of pregnancy before noticing.

Denial of Pregnancy Is a Mental Disorder

According to medical research, denial of pregnancy ”may show different categories of the condition, such as frank denial, suspicion of pregnancy without conscious awareness, and complete knowledge of the fact that she is pregnant with denial and concealment of the condition.” However, it occurs most likely to women who suffer or have suffered previously from a mental illness, or trauma.

Possible Causes

Causes and risk factors of a denied pregnancy are several. First, young age seems to be a common one. However, the main cause remains an unstable mental state, or use of substances and drugs to treat an existing psychiatric disorder. Nevertheless, as per some case studies, few women who suffered a denied pregnancy presented no mental disorder symptoms.

In fact, experts also discuss that some other possible causes can just be the simple result of a natural complication. According to a doctor in The Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center, ”These are women who don’t have routine sex, don’t have routine periods, and don’t regularly see a doctor.”

Diagnosis And Management

Experiencing a denied pregnancy is particularly hard on an emotional level. Among the many complications of this condition, the most troubling is a damaged moral. When you are told you will be a mother in an advanced pregnancy state, or just few hours before delivery is traumatic. That’s why doctors always resort to psychologists for support post-partum. diagnosis is an important step, as it reveals the reason that caused you to have a denied pregnancy. Therefore, understand how to deal with it.

Second but most importantly, managing the situation is often the hard part. While some women find themselves in a situation in which they can afford having a baby, other don’t. In some cases, young girls are faced with the hard choice of keeping the baby, or looking into other alternatives. Although the chances of having a denial of pregnancy are rare, some women who actually lived it came forward and shared their emotional and inspiring journey.

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New Study Reveals That Single Women Are The Happiest

Aren’t you tired of not hearing the end of it at family gatherings, because you are the only one without a partner? Yes, we have had it with things like ” Come on girl, you are getting left behind” or, ” You need to have a family before it’s too late.” Fortunately enough, scientific research confirmed that you don’t need a partner or kids to be happy. Check out these new findings, that are challenging what’s commonly believed!

Social stigmas

We women live under constant pressure to fulfill all the ideals imposed by society. We are wired to believe that we should all end up having a stable partner and children (and the more the better!). As ridiculous as it may sound, many people don’t understand how a woman can achieve happiness, without meeting these “requirements.” Now finally, science is on our side, proving that women actually are happiest when single and childless.

Scientific Research Says It

The psychologist specialized in happiness, Paul Dolan, has concluded through studies that the healthiest and happiest people in 2019 are single women without children. In fact, he revealed this information at an event on happiness, well-being and education, during the Hay Festival. Dolan has managed to break the common stereotype of weak and desperate women, realizing that it is no longer necessary to have the “traditional” family life (that is, heteronormative couple and children) to achieve complete fulfillment and happiness.

Changing ”The Tradition”

Moreover, the “traditional” vision of family has been relegated to the background, giving more visibility to other types of family. A good example of this is the family that runs the @ oh.mamiblue Instagram account, a family made up of two mothers and a son who fight for the rights of women and the LGTB community. These two empowered women started the hashtag #yosoLOVEoamor to give visibility to “non-normative” families. In addition, this study aims to empower independent women despite the continuous pressure of society.

Why Are Single Women The Happiest?

In conclusion, as oppose to this ”traditional family” concept, women without a partner and without children are found, and according to Dolan, to be the ones who are usually the happiest. Obviously, it does not mean that having a partner and children produces unhappiness, but rather normalizes that we don’t only exist to have a partner and children.

For Men, It’s The Opposite

The curious thing about this study is that the author also realized that the opposite occurs with men. The investigation also revealed that for men, being married does bring a multitude of benefits. In fact, they tend to have a longer life and sometimes even higher salaries. In other words: having a life dedicated to your partner and your children is highly beneficial for them… but not always for us.

According to Dr. Dolan’s surveys, married women always seem the happiest, but this happens only when husbands are present. However, it turns out that women who do it all alone, don’t feel happy with their family.

Jennifer Aniston Is One Of Many Examples

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It is time to leave behind the social stigma of needing a partner and children to have a full life. Having these things is not the same as being completely successful, and it shouldn’t be a life goal either. If not, ask Jennifer Aniston, who says she is happier than ever at her 50-year-old single and childless.

Even better, other celebs like Rihanna continuously challenge the status-quo, and prove that being a single woman, and with no children, can also pave the way to bigger achievements and more success.

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10 Reasons Why You Haven’t Found True Love Yet

Why can’t I find true love? This question has gone through our minds a million times, yet, we don’t really understand the reasons behind it. In fact, when it comes to finding love, there are many factors that come to play. Nevertheless, the most important one is definitely your attitude towards life and relationships. Furthermore, we often feel down because of the uncertainty of when true love will come our way. You see your friends getting married, happy in monogamous relationships, and you are still struggling with finding that one person who wants to settle with you. Yes, it’s normal to feel stuck when all your relationships end the same way. However, the good news is that you may actually have control when it comes to finding the right person. How? We tell you everything in this post!

You Need To Change Your ”Vibe”

You are beautiful, nice, funny, but still single. What’s wrong then, right? Well, nothing is wrong because it’s not about you. In fact, sometimes it’s all about the vibe you give away. Because, if you’ve always been into the same type of men, knowing the red flags, then that should be your cue to adjust your vibe based on what you want to attract, in order to manifest the relationship you want.

Stop Making Excuses

This is literally what we often do. When we like someone so much, then we slowly become unaware of our actions. They say that love is blind, because it makes you focus on the positive side, and put up with the bad one. Actually, all healthy relationships require sacrifice, but maybe the reason you can’t find true love is because you are sacrificing too much.

Learn To Put Yourself First

That being said, putting yourself first is not selfish, so don’t let anyone tell you that. In fact, when you put yourself first, you somehow become more desirable. If you often feel that someone you love deserves to come before you, then work on changing that ASAP.

Value Your Friends More

When in a relationship, it’s normal for your priorities to change. However, be ware of slowly letting go of your friends and ”personal space.” Sometimes, you can’t find true love until you are fully ready to embrace it, and nothing screams trust and loyalty like being someone who values their friends and their space.

Forget About Standards/Expectations

It’s okay to have standards and know what you want and don’t want in a relationship. However, forget about prince charming and unrealistic expectations. If you are being too picky, then you just might be missing the right person for you. Be out there, take risks, and give yourself the chance to find true love.

Maybe You Don’t Want A Relationship?

Think about it for a second! Yes, it would be wonderful to have someone you can spend your life with, but is it really what you want? Sometimes, the way we are raised, society’s pressure and expectations just make us want to be with someone so bad. However, if you are independent, you enjoy life, you are happy to travel, be with your friends and alone, then maybe you don’t even want a relationship really. In fact, you may even be transmitting that to every potential lover you meet unconsciously.

Not Enjoying Being Alone

If you are so desperate to find love, and you keep looking for it everywhere, it could be a reason why you haven’t found true love yet. Because love hits you when you least expect it. Furthermore, you can’t expect to find someone just to fill a void. Seriously, I get it. Nobody wants to be alone forever, but when you start appreciating your solitude and you make peace with it, Mr./Mrs right may show up then.

You Are Not Putting Yourself Out There

In addition to having unrealistic expectations, if you are not putting yourself out there, then how will love find you? Even more, you need to take a moment and evaluate your past encounters. Sometimes, you are looking in the wrong places. Of course, it’s hard to believe that dating apps like Tinder could give you the perfect match, but putting yourself out there will show you what you don’t want and what to actually look for.

You Are Too Afraid Of Being Hurt

Unfortunately, everyone has went through tragic heartbreaks. Yet, trying to control your feelings will keep you away from finding true love. It’s okay to have gone through difficult relationships, but the most important thing is to learn from them, without being afraid of putting yourself back in the market.

More Self-Love, And Less Self-Doubt

Finally, confidence is key in attracting the right person. We all have insecurities, but we need to love ourselves the way we are. How many times have you felt that you can’t find love because something is wrong with you? See? that’s exactly what should be changed. Some people are going to be toxic and treat you less than you deserve. However, it has nothing to do with you. I mean, even Beyonce got cheated on. So, start practicing a lot more self-love, and way less self-doubt.

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7 Truths About Your Late Twenties

Late twenties are definitely a rare period of time. You are doing okay, but you are still not in a ”stable” time in your life. Chasing after your dreams, paying bills, probably working more than you can handle, and having less fun than you should. Yes, after your ”quarter life crisis”, you start on a whole new journey. One in which you are not young and reckless, but not yet where you are mature enough to have kids. Here is the unmasked truth about your late twenties. Or at least, from several people’s testimonies.

Water Is Your Best Friend

One of my biggest regrets in life is not having drunk more water. Not only that it makes you feel refreshed better than any drink, it also hydrates your organs. Somehow past your 27 years of age, you starting choosing to drink water more often and on any occasion.

More Back Pain Than Anything Else

Back pain can really start at any point after 20. But, when you hit 26 it just starts getting worse. Of course, much of it is due to sitting too much for work, or being lazy on your couch. Either way, you get more back pain than anything else. The silver lining? Well, you can now afford to get checked up or do what you need to do to relieve the pain.

Hangovers Hit Hard

Before hitting 25, I used to have normal hangovers. You know, a slight headache, tired, no will to survive etc…However, once I turned 27, my headaches miraculously became terrible. Instead of the light headache, your head is literally buzzing to the point where you need to take meds. You feel extra-exhausted and you don’t even want to leave bed. One of the things you start realizing, is how definitely your body is ”aging” and changing.

No Energy to Waste On Unnecessary Things

Or people…At some point, you get tired of following trends, dying to impress people, and spending your time with unworthy people. Yes, you feel much lonelier than before, but you are also aware that you’ve never been better. (of course, due to your past failures and emotional traumas.) Anyway, you start really getting along with your solitude, and prefer not to waste energy and time anymore. After few crazy years, it’s actually good to start saving your energy for the important things.

Appreciating Your Family More

Not only your body is aging. In fact, your late twenties are about self-discovery. You start questioning your career, your feelings, but above all, appreciating your family more. It’s not easy to be an adult, but you remember how hard they tried to make it all work. So, calling your mom goes from twice a month to twice a week. If you live far away from home, you often get a sour feeling of homesickness.

Realizing That You Have Very Few Friends

When it comes to partying and having a good time, I’m sure you’ve known many people. But really, how many of those people really turned out to be a friend? chances are that the number is lower than you expected. Over the course of the years, people change. They have a new lifestyle, interests, jobs. Therefore, experiences and disappointments have shown you who the real ones are. And you will appreciate them more when you realize that you have very few friends.

Getting Excited For The Simplest Things

Netflix and chill becomes your fantasy. After those long hours of work, you get home more tired everyday. Then, kitchen duties, cleaning, food and all that knowing that you’ll be having the same day tomorrow. Of course, sitting to watch a movie with a glass of wine is just a relief.

Either way, getting older is a process that we each handle differently. The most certain thing though, is that your late twenties is a great period of time you should savor.

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Your Best And Worst Qualities According To Astrology

Wether you believe in astrology or not, you are always intrigued to know what your zodiac sign says about you. Furthermore, 90% of times, they can be pretty accurate when it comes to personality traits. So, without further ado, here is what you zodiac sign says about your best and worst qualities.

Aries

Arians re passionate, physical and free-spirited. They live the life they want. So, when it comes to their best quality, they can be persuasive, assertive and innovators. They are never afraid to go on adventures, and explore. However, due to their ”free” nature, they can be a bit immature, reckless and can go on the pursuit of they want without thinking too much about others.

Taurus

Taurus is empowered by earth. So, they are share solid and grounded traits. They are loyal, good-natured individual and hardworking. They are empathic and love making others happy. Yet, in their worst, they tend to be stubborn, inflexible, lazy and can loose their temper easily. However, they are really easy to pamper, as they like nothing more than sincerity and affection.

Gemini

This sign is known to be double-faced. A Gemini can turn tables around in a second. But, they are also straightforward, faithful, funny and value friendship a lot. They are also easy-going and know how to make someone fee loved. However, one their worst qualities according to astrology, is that they can get superficial and gossipy. Furthermore, they can switch moods just like that, and would love to start an argument for no reason, on their worst day.

Cancer

Born to get in touch with their feelings. Cancer is one of strongest zodiac signs, and they strive to establish a healthy relationship with their emotions. In addition, they are always there for their loved ones. Some of their best qualities include empathy, support and good vibes. On the other hand, their worst qualities can be identified as lack of communication, clinginess, and even suspicious at times.

Leo

Leo people have the gift of being really in touch with themselves. They know who they are, and love to praise themselves around people. As per their positives, we can say that they are ”open-hearted and magnanimous individuals, who are generous to others and quick to praise them.” However, careful! If you touch the wrong nerve, they can become self-centered, pretentious and egotistic.

Virgo

One of the most responsible, determined, and conscious zodiac signs. At their best, they are patient, wise-advisers and can listen to you for hours. They are also known for taking their time, correctly analyzing situations, and knowing when to keep trying, and when to give up. However, on their worst, they can be rude, finicky micromanagers and even ignorant.

Libra

People born under this zodiac sign are cool-headed individuals who thrive on partnerships and strive to maintain peace and harmony in all their relationships. Their main good qualities revolve around being diplomatic, patient and understanding. On their bad side, they can be indecisive, and make promises they will probably never keep.

Scorpio

Scorpios are stubborn, hard-headed and have a strong, impulsive character. They are best at being charming, good talkers, and intuitive. However, since they are often guided by their emotions, they tend to be manipulative, suspicious and sneaky when it comes to their worst qualities.

Sagittarius

For Sagittarius born people, their best and worst qualities are aligned. They strive for the truth. In fact, Sagittarians tend to study the world’s peoples and cultures to find personal and philosophical truths. So, it makes sense than their best qualities revolve around honesty, empathy, respect. They are also friendly open-minded individuals. On the down side, they can be overly opinionated, obnoxious and willing to defend their point of view til death.

Capricorn

A Capricorn is known to work hard, make their own way in the world, and earn respect. Capricorns are typically ambitious, independent, and resourceful. At their best, they can do well under pressure and, stay calm around almost any bad situation. At their worst, they can be cold, controlling, and unapproachable.

Aquarius

Aquarians are one of the nicest people out there, although they may not seem like it at first. They are smart, interesting and friendly. However, they are likely to lose their temper quickly, overprotective, and believe they are right all the time.

Pisces

Finally, Pisces born people are super generous, quit, supportive and sincere. Unfortunately, that could be both for their advantage, and the contrary. In fact, because they can be so open, kind and honest, people could take advantage of that. Moreover, the worst quality of pisces is that when facing a hard situation, they can turn into escapists, and prefer to drown in their sorrows than face them.

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Movies That Remind You Why Being Single Is Great

Being single is great but also challenging at the same time. Yes, we all want to meet our soulmate, but how on earth can we do that with this ‘‘new way” of dating? There may possibly be more couples breaking up than forming. In fact, recent research shows that this generation’s will to marry is way lower than the previous ones. Hence, you don’t have to worry about being single, because chances are, we all are going to end up like that.

That being said, being single is not a downgrade at all. Actually, wouldn’t prefer to stay single, then trapped in the wrong relationship? Or at least, that’s what these movies are trying to tell us. So, when you start overthinking about the perks of being in love, here are few movies to remind you why being single is actually great.

500 Days Of Summer

This movie depicts perfectly the struggles of a relationship. We all do want love, but are we all really willing to deal with all its ups and downs? While almost all single people out there ”feel” ready, there’s a fine line between wanting affection, and being truly prepared for what love will have coming at you.

Tom and Summer’s relationship, is actually very close to 80% of real-life relationships. Sometimes, you end up giving too much to someone who is not willing to do the same. Or, sometimes, one falls out of love, and there is nothing you can do to prevent that from happening.

Love Actually

One of our favorite romance movies for Christmas time! This epic movie will remind you why being single is great. Mainly, because it makes you realize that despite the sacrifices you make for someone, and regardless of how perfect you are, you could en up hurt anyways. In addition, it also shows you what can happen when you let go of the wrong relationship, as he world is prepared to reward you with something even better.

Gone Girl

Ben Affleck just gets to experience first-hand the hell that a hurt woman can get you through. After his wife finds out that he cheated on her, she makes his life unbearable. Basically, she fakes her own death in the most genius way, so all signs indicate that her husband was her killer. The mastermind had to disappear, change everything about herself, and just watches her man pay the price for his infidelity. If anything, after watching this movie, you’ll be glad you don’t have anyone cheating on you, and even less, having to contemplate vengeance to serve it on a cold plate.

Life Itself

On the contrary, love itself is more about how one event can change the life of so many people. However, it shows clearly that every failed relationship you ever had, is actually part of a bigger plan. The universe might be saving the best for you behind all the heartbreak, and healing. This movie really gets you to believe that the reason why you are single, is because you are meant to wait for that extraordinary person, who will make everything seem right. You don’t have to convince someone of your worth, because the right person will know it already.

Legally Blonde

Elle woods would have never made that great career for herself if she didn’t get dumped. In fact, she challenged herself, pushed herself to the limit, and exceeded everyone’s expectation. Yes, she is the best fictional example of why being single is great. In addition, heartbreak didn’t only allow her to make a name for herself, but also find the person she was meant to be with. Of course, none of that would’ve happened if she would’ve stayed in her initial relationship, and settled for a mediocre love and life.

How To Be Single

This feel-good rom-com is what you need when you feel that you are tired of being single. Many women actually can’t stand being alone, so they jump from one relationship to another. Learning how to be single is important, because it allows you to gain a clearer perspective. Also, lean to reflect on your past relationships, notice patterns, and give yourself time to heal properly. And, remember this: You will never attract the best kind of love until you learn to give that kind of love to yourself, first.

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