Why can’t I find true love? This question has gone through our minds a million times, yet, we don’t really understand the reasons behind it. In fact, when it comes to finding love, there are many factors that come to play. Nevertheless, the most important one is definitely your attitude towards life and relationships. Furthermore, we often feel down because of the uncertainty of when true love will come our way. You see your friends getting married, happy in monogamous relationships, and you are still struggling with finding that one person who wants to settle with you. Yes, it’s normal to feel stuck when all your relationships end the same way. However, the good news is that you may actually have control when it comes to finding the right person. How? We tell you everything in this post!
You Need To Change Your ”Vibe”
You are beautiful, nice, funny, but still single. What’s wrong then, right? Well, nothing is wrong because it’s not about you. In fact, sometimes it’s all about the vibe you give away. Because, if you’ve always been into the same type of men, knowing the red flags, then that should be your cue to adjust your vibe based on what you want to attract, in order to manifest the relationship you want.
Stop Making Excuses
This is literally what we often do. When we like someone so much, then we slowly become unaware of our actions. They say that love is blind, because it makes you focus on the positive side, and put up with the bad one. Actually, all healthy relationships require sacrifice, but maybe the reason you can’t find true love is because you are sacrificing too much.
Learn To Put Yourself First
That being said, putting yourself first is not selfish, so don’t let anyone tell you that. In fact, when you put yourself first, you somehow become more desirable. If you often feel that someone you love deserves to come before you, then work on changing that ASAP.
Value Your Friends More
When in a relationship, it’s normal for your priorities to change. However, be ware of slowly letting go of your friends and ”personal space.” Sometimes, you can’t find true love until you are fully ready to embrace it, and nothing screams trust and loyalty like being someone who values their friends and their space.
Forget About Standards/Expectations
It’s okay to have standards and know what you want and don’t want in a relationship. However, forget about prince charming and unrealistic expectations. If you are being too picky, then you just might be missing the right person for you. Be out there, take risks, and give yourself the chance to find true love.
Maybe You Don’t Want A Relationship?
Think about it for a second! Yes, it would be wonderful to have someone you can spend your life with, but is it really what you want? Sometimes, the way we are raised, society’s pressure and expectations just make us want to be with someone so bad. However, if you are independent, you enjoy life, you are happy to travel, be with your friends and alone, then maybe you don’t even want a relationship really. In fact, you may even be transmitting that to every potential lover you meet unconsciously.
Not Enjoying Being Alone
If you are so desperate to find love, and you keep looking for it everywhere, it could be a reason why you haven’t found true love yet. Because love hits you when you least expect it. Furthermore, you can’t expect to find someone just to fill a void. Seriously, I get it. Nobody wants to be alone forever, but when you start appreciating your solitude and you make peace with it, Mr./Mrs right may show up then.
You Are Not Putting Yourself Out There
In addition to having unrealistic expectations, if you are not putting yourself out there, then how will love find you? Even more, you need to take a moment and evaluate your past encounters. Sometimes, you are looking in the wrong places. Of course, it’s hard to believe that dating apps like Tinder could give you the perfect match, but putting yourself out there will show you what you don’t want and what to actually look for.
You Are Too Afraid Of Being Hurt
Unfortunately, everyone has went through tragic heartbreaks. Yet, trying to control your feelings will keep you away from finding true love. It’s okay to have gone through difficult relationships, but the most important thing is to learn from them, without being afraid of putting yourself back in the market.
More Self-Love, And Less Self-Doubt
Finally, confidence is key in attracting the right person. We all have insecurities, but we need to love ourselves the way we are. How many times have you felt that you can’t find love because something is wrong with you? See? that’s exactly what should be changed. Some people are going to be toxic and treat you less than you deserve. However, it has nothing to do with you. I mean, even Beyonce got cheated on. So, start practicing a lot more self-love, and way less self-doubt.
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